Why suffer rejection at all?

After more than five years in the Unicity network marketing business, working with many partners who want the business for what it can get for them, I find that the fear, and pain, of rejection continues to rear its ugly head.

The fear of rejection, and the pain that is associated with it, often slows down or stops altogether otherwise capable and confident people from continuing to build their Unicity business.

I find that such a pity. Why? Because that fear is unnecessary, and the pain from the so-called rejections are often self-inflicted, borne out of things we often make up in our minds about people - what they mean when they do or don't do certain things.

Think of the guy who've just got a "no, thank you" and how he might tend to recount the rejection over and over again, making up suppositions and assumptions along the way that serve to make him feel worse and worse about himself.

Wouldn't it be nice if there were no rejections to speak of? Wouldn't it be even nicer if we only have acceptances and success stories to share?

We can do and build the business without being rejected.And I am not suggesting we turn the table on our prospects, and in a somewhat vengeful way, hastily reject unsuitable prospects instead.

We can get around all these fear and pain of rejections, in either direction, simply by approaching the business in terms of "looking for a good fit" - and idea I first picked up from a seminar by John Milton Fogg.

We have great products. But not everybody is going to appreciate that, and see their value or feel ready for them. So, we just keep going out, showing people what we have, and looking out and listening up for a fit between what we have to offer and what some people are looking for.

We have a great business opportunity,which is extraordinary and exceptional in its powers and its rewards. But not everybody is going to see its beauty and recognize its power. Even those who do, may not be ready to step out of the familiarity of their comfort zone to venture into the unfamiliar.

Ours is a "lifestyle business" that requires vision, perseverance and personal change - something which many are afraid of!

So, what do we do? We should just keep talking to as many people as possible. Or rather, get as many people as possible to talk to us about what they're doing and what they'd rather be doing, if any. If we listen up well enough, we should be able to find that someone for whom our opportunity represents a God-sent.

Where there's no fit, let go and move on.

Where there seems to be a fit, let's keep exploring until we find the fit.

Where there's a good, ready fit, let's proceed.

Now, where is the rejection in all these?

The book that defines an industry!

Book that sets record straight for MLM is out!

It has arrived ... the book, "It's Time For Network Marketing - the most remarkable form of free enterprise ever created", edited by John Milton Fogg, in which I have the privilege and responsibility of being one of 52, mostly big-name, contributors.

The 25 copies which I pre-ordered, mostly for a few key associates who paid in advance on my recommendation, arrived a few days ago. The handful of spare copies have since been snapped up on news.

I was excited on seeing the package. I went straight for my article, entitled "Celebrating Network Marketing - the Business of Uplifting People", which I found on pp 103-109.

I read it again, almost couldn't believe that I wrote what I did, and am pleased with myself for what I said :) It had all flowed out in a moment of inspiration, after days and weeks of hard thinking.

In general, the 351-page, book looks and reads good. Literally and visually, red hot! I know those who pre-ordered the book, long before it was published out of belief and my personal recommendation, will be glad they did.

This morning, over breakfast and my cup of "teh C kosong", I started to dig into the rest of the red-hot book, and what a thrill I had :)

Hey, this book doesn't just define our industry. It sells the entire network marketing industry - very well, very elegantly, and very efficiently.

After working through the foreword by John Milton Fogg, and the first 13 articles, I found them all to be easy reads and profound ones at the same time.

Thinking about the breakfast read on the drive home, I realized that when you ask someone with loads of experience in doing something to share his thoughts or experience in a really short article, you can expect a power-packed piece loaded with the best gems.

What happens when you ask a big bunch of people to do the same? Mega-tons of gems!!!

Imagine ... no need to plough through a whole book to get to the gems. Just two to twelve pages per author. Talk about short cuts!

I strongly recommend the book as a personal development and belief-building tool. It'd also make a good prospecting tool. Offer it to someone who is curious about our business, but for various reasons, wouldn't come to meet your uplines or attend a presentation to find out more, but whom you have a feeling will fall in love with the business if only he knew how classy, professional and fulfilling this business can be.

I am proud to be part of this international now-published effort to set the record straight on what's right and what's good about network marketing.

The book costs US$25 a copy before shipping cost, and cannot be found in the bookshops, at Amazon or Borders. You will have to order online at www.RemarkableNetworkMarketing.com. It's worth the effort and the wait.